Paying Homage: Who was he?

I recently took part in a memoir writing course, hoping it would help me write the memoir I’ve been struggling with – about my life with Bob, my husband who died four years ago June 8th, and grief, and whatever else this book will be when I write it. But I just can’t seem to get the writing down in any way that isn’t jumbled. I tried to write a [...]

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After he was gone – 11 months, I am…

It’s been 11 months since I touched his hair, smelled the cologne on his shirt, traced his fingers with mine. I haven’t marked every month through writing, but I [...]

After he was gone: Right between the eyes

Some days you think everything is o.k. Then it hits you right between the eyes. Bam! My inner voice asks, What was that? I thought I was fine. I start to cry. I pull [...]

After He Was Gone: Who will I share my stories with now?

Today was a good day but (the BUT) I want to post something about what I'm feeling. It is more of an information piece to get you thinking about who you share things with in [...]

Not a New Year’s Resolution

I don't make New Year's resolutions and I rarely set goals. I know those who succeed in life at many things do set goals, I just always end up disappointing myself by not [...]

I Am With You

Someone told me that when a loved one passes away you should look for messages from them. I’m more of a pragmatic type gal. If I can’t see it I generally don’t believe [...]

Saying Farewell to Facebook Posts on Grief

It was six months on December 8th since Bob Donaldson died. Half a year. It’s hard to believe. And with this anniversary I want to tell you that I won't be posting about my [...]

Painful thoughts after he is gone

The world is upside down and backwards. I am in a bubble surrounded by a haze. I don't want to push it. Reality will seep in and take over. I am sure I will wake up and [...]

Three months after he was gone

This blog will seem disjointed as you read it. My thoughts are disjointed, but I think it will all come together if you read through to the end. September 8th: It is three [...]

Hugs for healing

I have learned that hugs are healing and I am trying to share that message now. I do it with people I know. I share it with strangers. I will share two stories about hugs [...]

One month after he was gone

Today marks, by the calendar numbers, one month since he died, June 8, 2013. Last week I didn’t cry. Instead of finding solace in not crying I worried my lack of [...]