love and loss

Paying Homage: Who was he?

I recently took part in a memoir writing course, hoping it would help me write the memoir I’ve been struggling with – about my life with Bob, my husband [...]

I will always miss you

It's been almost four years and my heart still aches. I will always miss you. I am in a different place than I was four years ago, but I will always [...]

You Hurt Too

Sometimes on our journey we meet people who are also grieving. They inadvertently hurt us with their grief.   I know I am stronger because I [...]

Eulogy for my Dad

Eulogy for my Dad Friday, October 7, 2016 Dr. Murray Boles, August 27, 1928-October 5, 2016 As many of you know our dad's passing on Wednesday [...]

Learning from loss

I've been writing blogs about my journey for a website called Headspace. Right now I have blogs two posted:  Till Death Do Us Part: Living the Vows of [...]

A new beginning

My friend tells me if you send out ‘intentions’ to the ‘universe’ for things you want, they will be fulfilled. I knew I wouldn’t be alone for the [...]

One Day at a Time, Part I

In March I wrote about the fact that I was taking a program - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for Depression. This was the second mental health therapy [...]

Down the Rabbit Hole: Finding my way out

My first message to friends and family from the hospital October 28, 2014 I have thought about writing but honestly haven't had time and I'm not sure I [...]

After he was gone – 11 months, I am…

It’s been 11 months since I touched his hair, smelled the cologne on his shirt, traced his fingers with mine. I haven’t marked every month through [...]

One month after he was gone

Today marks, by the calendar numbers, one month since he died, June 8, 2013. Last week I didn’t cry. Instead of finding solace in not crying I worried [...]