Be thankful and stop complaining

Be Thankful Mantra

Someone posted this on Facebook the other day. Bang! It hit home for me in a HUGE way! It will be my mantra this year. Not only that, I plan to ask people who are complaining to “be thankful and stop complaining.”

How did I get into this rut? I’m not sure. But looking back over the past few years I remember complaining…a lot.

When my daughter calls me she sometimes needs to vent. I get it. I’m her mom. We tend to dump our problems on those closest to us, whether it’s just to use someone as a sounding board or when looking for advice, but mostly just to vent. At the end of the conversation she usually says: “Sorry to be such a Debbie Downer, mom.” Yep, that explains it perfectly.

A friend of mine, Doreen Pendgracs, and blogger extraordinaire has several blog posts about being thankful, for example: a salute to 2012: it’s been a good year. I’ve read her blogs, and hundreds of posts and blogs on the Internet all focused on this topic. So why is it that I never really got it? And what is it about this small poster that finally opened my eyes, or at least made complete sense to me, as opposed to the messages within all the noise that’s been bombarding me for decades?.

Don’t get me wrong. I do question why I’ve been so blessed. I’m sitting here in my office that’s probably as big as a tent that houses a family somewhere in a refugee camp. I’m not saying I don’t think about that. I do. A lot. Every day. But I still complain about silly little things – the slow driver ahead of me, the fact that it’s cold outside, I don’t like how my hair looks today, I feel fat (when others are starving all over the world). There is definitely inequality going on here. And I get that too. So why don’t I do something about it? I’m going to make that my mission this year.

In the meantime, it’s enlightening to find out how others spent their holidays. Please check out this article.

EXCLUSIVE! On Berkeley’s Telegraph, Few Creatures Stirred X-Mas Eve — Or Did They? by Steed Dropout WARNING! GRAPHIC LANGUAGE!

It’s what really prompted me to write this post and realize that I am so very fortunate; again, not an epiphany but all these things have brought this to the forefront for me, today, the first day of 2013.

So it’s another new year and today is January 1st 2013. Now it’s your turn. What do you have to be thankful for? What will you do this year to make a difference?

8 comments
  1. I couldn’t agree more. It is so easy to be down and full of complaint especially when life’s pressures are weighing you down. I look forward to the relief and a better attitude in 2013.

    • I know you’ve had a difficult year Jen. You had more than your fair share to weigh you down and you are definitely the exception to this rule. I wish you the best in 2013 and that you find positive things to be thankful for this year! I am thankful to have you as my friend.

  2. Hi Suzanne: Thx for this post, and for citing me in it! It’s nice to be called a “blogger extraordinaire!”

    What do I have to be grateful for? I think the biggest thing I have to be grateful for is my knack for optimism. I am a born optimist, and that helps keep me happy and in the moment. There isn’t a worrying bone in my body.

    I hope to continue my volunteer activities this year with PWAC, TMAC, and TM. Spending my time volunteering for the associations that have taught and inspired me helps keep me on track.

    All the best to you in 2013. Remember the Mantra: “Always look on the bright side of life …” 🙂

  3. Suzanne, you’re right when you say that this message, or ones like it, have been out there before. So why did this one resonate with you so much? Likely because you are in a time and place in your life when you are more open to hearing these messages. I find that happens all the time with me. Something will just “click” when the same thing hasn’t before. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this so eloquently. Keep up the great work–you are an inspiration to me, and many others.

    • Thanks Christine. You are probably right. Whatever the reason I have to say this has made a huge impact on me already. I am always thinking about what I will say before I say it now. I suspect it will become second nature and that my responses will automatically take on a positive tone without me even thinking about it. All the best to you in 2013!

  4. It’s interesting how something just catches out eye and hits a nerve that was just waiting to be struck. I always think about homeless people over the holidays, and especially when it’s bitterly cold. I’m very thankful for the life I have, and to have a loving partner and a warm safe home. And I am trying in this New Year to be as positive as I can. Really -I have a hypnotherapy app on my iphone on positivity which is helping too. BTW I love your tag line Write words, Right message – fabulous.

    • Thanks to all for your supportive comments. The best is yet to come. Andrew thanks for the comment about my tagline. Came to me in a flash one day. I too had planned to be more positive this year. I know many people who said the same thing. I am certain we are being tested but you make a good point. We are lucky. We have a good life and people who love us. We have a wonderful home and food on the table. Now all we need is to get everyone to a place of good health.

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